ARIANNA AND HER INSANE JEALOUSY
Having kids so close in age is very difficult. Being a parent in general is really difficult, some would say it is the hardest job in the world. I would definitely agree. There are so many difficulties that come with having two kids under the age of two; one would be the older siblings jealousy. My Arianna is my first, and she is extremely territorial of the people she loves. This would be a wonderful trait to have as an adult, but as a child, it can make you want to gouge your own eyes out. Without tooting my own horn, if you ask any member of our family, they would say she is a daddy’s girl. Being a daddy’s girl, she has a huge problem with anyone showing ME affection; even my own wife cannot kiss me in the morning without getting a scream from our daughter. God forbid if my mom comes to visit us and she walks in to give me a hug; Arianna will throw herself on the floor, and when I say throw, I mean she will belly flop to the floor start screaming and kicking. Make no mistake though, I take huge pleasure in the fact that she is super attached to me.
Having Dominic brought up a lot of anger and resentment from Arianna. It’s extremely common for the older sibling to dislike or not care for their younger sibling for a period of time, especially when they're so young. Ari was 1.5 when we brought dominic home from the hospital. She knew right away that she was no longer the center of attention, that is where the acting out began. The moment we brought him home, she became almost a different child. She would act out in ways she never did before: cranky indecisive days where she has no idea what she wants, she would scream if I were to ever hold him to feed him or take care of him, touching things when you tell her not to while staring dead into your eyes, climbing everything she is not suppose to and throwing things around while screaming if she does not have her way.
There having been sporadic moments where she will go up to him and give him a kiss, bring him his milk, or run and get the burp cloth if he spit up without us even saying anything. Overall, she still does not care for him. I am not even going to pretend to have this situation figured out, so if anyone out there have any suggestions, anyone out there with similar circumstances, please message me on Instagram (thehonestdadd) or you can message me here in my CONTACT page and lets chat! I would love to hear from you guys.