PARENTS BEHAVIOR IN THE HOME
DISCLAIMER: THIS IS JUST MY OPINION, I AM NO CHILD OR FAMILY EXPERT.
How does your behavior effect your kids? The answer is simple; every possible way imaginable. As a person who did not grow up in the most ideal situation, It was super important for myself to have kids to right all the wrongs that were done onto me. Creating a little unit of my own was a goal I set for myself from a super young age. An age where imagining having a family of my own was not something that was common in others, and I knew that very well.
I promised myself to give the best life I could to my wife and kids; that does not mean buy your kids the best toys and name-brand clothes that they’re going to grow out of in a month, or your wife every Cartier bracelet and Louboutin ever made. Sure, those things are nice those are nice to have, but it’s not what your family is looking for. For myself, it means creating a happy and emotionally healthy home. Us grown ups have to understand the way we respond to certain situations, the way we speak with one another in the house and our actions all have a HUGE impact on our kids well-being. If kids grow up in toxic environment where voices are CONSTANTLY being raised, or if the parents don’t act or speak right, the kids may grow up with a lot of issues. Kids are sponges and they absorb so much even as young as a few months old. They feed off of the energy you give off, that is why it’s best to keep the environment they’re growing up in to be the best it can possibly be.
In my home, my wife and I do not raise our voices to one another. If we have something to say, we figure out a way to say what we need to say in a calm manner. Although lord knows we’re not perfect, for the most part, we wait until we put the kids to sleep to discuss any and all issues we may be having at that moment. We do not want to be upset with one another in front of our kids, especially Arianna who is absorbing everything more and more each day. We speak to one another in a respectful manner and show lots of love to one another in front of them. We think it is super important to show each other as much love and support as we show our kids. I want my kids to grow up knowing they have a happy and healthy home and a solid foundation. I have seen the damage a toxic household can have on the offspring, so keeping a happy and healthy home is our priority for our kids.