DO YOU “DADSIT” YOUR KIDS

Gentlemen! Has your wife or partner ever asked you to watch the kids because she has to go to the store real quick or because she has a girls lunch she needs to attend, or even just to return something at the store? Did you instantly shit your pants in terror? Well, man up and do it.

Even though men have come such a long way in the whole parenting world, it still amazes me how sometimes a lot of fathers can’t be bothered to be a parent even for a few hours. I see this so often in my Armenian community and even though I am seeing so many dads my age being so hands on, there are still so many of us who are still living in the 80’s where the man has his own life and the wife is at home with a very fussy baby. Why the hell did you even bother bringing the child into this world if you’re constantly out with your boys instead of sitting your ass home and helping take care of YOUR child? Look, I am not trying to make myself out to be this perfect husband or perfect dad because absolutely no one in the world is perfect and everyone needs work. However, if you decided to have a child, you forever have a responsibility to be the best person you can be for your kids. You may come home from work very tired and worn out, but your child doesn’t know or understand that, they still need their parent to be present.

For whatever the reason may be, some men think or feel that taking care of a child is only the woman's job. I’m not exactly sure where this neanderthal way of thinking came from, but i’m pretty sure for the most part, it’s a generational thing. So many of us millennials who grew up in the 90’s had fathers who thought this way, and a lot of millenials have suffered because of it. If this is what you as a boy have experienced growing up, you are responsible for changing that and do better than they ever did. I hate the generational excuse.

When your wife needs to run an errand and does not want to take the kids with her, just grow a pair and watch them. Trust me it is not that hard. Here is a list of things you need to do while watching your kids:

• Pay attention to anything that may compromise their safety (especially if they’re crawling): small toys, electrical plugs, steps and etc...
• If they pee or shit themselves, change the damn diaper. DO NOT WAIT FOR THE WIFE TO GET HOME! If you don’t change the diaper after a certain time, they can get a painful rash that could have been avoided.
• If they start crying out of no where, comfort them. You can do so by feeding them, walking around the house with them, putting some music on and any other way you comfort a child.
• Just relax.

Again, I am not trying to come off as the perfect dad or husband. However, I am also not my wifes anonymous sperm donor either. We made kids together and together we have a responsibility to be the best we can. Boys, I hope you reading this post will make you think a little differently and will help inspire you to put in a bit more effort. Your kids don’t give two shits about how much money you made at work that day. All they give a shit about is you showing up that day and everyday. So... show up!